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Bloomsdale July [June] 25th. 1833.
Thee will probably be somewhat surprised in receiving a communication from me, in reply to thine- but I have determined notwithstanding my extreme diffidence to employ pen & paper- in order- if possible to dispel some unpleasant and I may ass unhappy associations connected with thy last visit. That I did feel and evince some repugnance to having a private conversation with thee- I freely acknowledge. Why I did so- it is impossible for me to explain- unless it was because I supposed the one- we had previously had- was sufficient to elucidate all difficulties- and therefore a second one useless.- I regret now such a thought should have entered my mind- and why I felt it painful- to have a further explanation- when I saw it wd. afford thee a satisfaction- is a mystery I do not yet understand; but as all regrets are unavailing- I will not strengthen them by indulging in, or dwelling upon them.- That my manners may have appeared in some instances- as they says, cold and repulsive, I am sensible- without my intending them to have that effect, at any rate- let me assure thee, it was very far from my intention, to wound or hurt thy feelings for even as I wd. like my own respected- have I endeavoured to consider thine.------ I certainly meant to imply from what I said- I considered thee in fault, in not having sent me any intimation of thy feelings with resepct to me, throughout the whole seven months of thy absense; most assuredly- absense & silence were never calculated to cherish and increase a preference, which under different- and more auspicious circumstances might have arisen; & as thee gave me no intimation I was not forgotten- I had no alternative left, but to believe as I did- thee had abandoned all idea of further intercourse- well then- considering myself slighted, and neglected, how could reserve and coldness of manner be entirely avoided? In extending my forgiveness, I really thought I had something to forgive- but it seems- according to the light in which thee views it- there was no fault committed- and consequenlty no "need of forgiveness." However different thy views of human nature- and the ways of the world, are from my own- I must still see those actions- in the light of errors- but will consider them as unintentional- and arising from inexperience. With respect to our correspondence motives of delicacy alone- prevented me from consenting to it- If thee had thought correctly about it- thee
|Title||1833 July [June] 25, Bloomsdale, to William D. Cope|
|Creator||Cope, Susan L. Newbold, 1805-1872|
|Recipient||Cope, William D. (William Drinker), 1798-1873|
|Gender of Author||F|
|Age of Author||20-30|
Quakers--Social life and customs
|Place Of Origin||Bloomsdale|
Mis-dated July 25, actually written June 25, 1833 .
The letter was written by Susan to William in the year before their marriage, describing the concerns of Susan's regarding William's 7-month withdrawl from correspodence. She is noticably upset about this, but forgives William and ultimately tells him that she hopes they may retain the friendship they had prior, and that she should destroy this letter.
|Repository||Haverford College Special Collections|
|Source||MS Coll 1170|
|Online Finding Aid||http://www.haverford.edu/library/special/aids/copeevans/|
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|Department||Haverford College Quaker and Special Collections|
|Collection||Cope - Evans family papers, 1732-1911|